What advice would you give on making healthy decisions?
My son struggled with a disability when he started school. He felt awful about his academic abilities, but excelled in his athletic pursuits. He struggled all through elementary school and I was constantly trying to encourage him when he would say he was so stupid . He was finally tested in the 5th grade. My intuition was right–I had a child with as much intelligence as his sisters. His IQ was not his problem, it was his self-perception, and of course, his difficulty with reading. I spent years telling my son he was not stupid, and that all he had to do was believe it. Yes, I told him he could do anything. Would I ever have told him to forget being an academic and pursue only what he excelled at athletics? Absolutely not. I firmly believe that all that stands between someone’s dreams and a life of mediocrity is their self-limiting beliefs. Fast forward to today. My son is 27 years old. He played collegiate soccer while earning good grades his first year. He decided to quit soccer to focus on a career in medicine. Did I tell him he wouldn’t be able to do that? NO. He earned his BSN, worked a couple years in critical care nursing, went to graduate school instead of med school, and is now a PA in a surgical practice. He scrubs into the OR every day, starting, assisting, and closing procedures. He is my hero. And a genius.