Are You Listening? What Are You Trying To Say? Books on Dialogue and Conversations

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When do you walk away thinking “that was a great conversation”? Is it when you found agreement? When you felt understood? Do you avoid particular people because you disagree?

The titles in this list will challenge you to listen to understand instead of reply, and to seek out your own bias. Maybe by exploring one of these books you will rethink what it means to have a “good” conversation! You can also practice conversation at an upcoming virtual event that is part of the Civic CLP “Let’s Talk About…” Series!

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How to Have Impossible Conversations: A Very Practical Guide

The coauthors distinguish between two types of conversations: those that are oriented toward arriving at truth, and those that may require changing the beliefs of people who do not want their beliefs changed (interventions). They then provide straightforward, practical, conversational techniques for the conversation. You can also check out this title as eBook on OverDrive/Libby or as eAudio on OverDrive/Libby.

I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversations

Two working moms from opposite ends of the political spectrum invite those looking for something better than the status quo to pull up a chair and listen to the principles, insights and practical tools they have learned hosting their fast-growing podcast Pantsuit Politics. You can also check out this title as eBook on OverDrive/Libby, as eBook on Hoopla or as eAudio on Hoopla.