How to Have Curious Conversations

What keeps us from really seeing each other, and how do we get it out of our way?

It is so much easier to talk about people who disagree with us than with them. But there’s no other way when we’re this polarized, I’ve realized, to let our real perspectives check, challenge, and enrich one another. Nor is there any other way to look past our perspectives to the experiences and values that shaped them — the paths different people walk to their views. To see people where they are, we have to see where they’re coming from. It gives us our chance to choose where we’re going.

“The barriers between us are lower than we think.” -Mónica Guzmán


This book list promotes the September 28th, 2022 virtual program, ‘How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times: A Conversation with Mónica Guzmán.’ Click here to watch the recording

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I Never Thought of It That Way : How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times

Journalist Mónica Guzmán is the loving liberal daughter of Mexican immigrants who voted–twice–for Donald Trump. When the country could no longer see straight across the political divide, Mónica set out to find what was blinding us and discovered the most eye-opening tool we’re not using: our own built-in curiosity.

You can also check out this title as eBook on OverDrive/Libby. This title is also available as an eAudio on Hoopla.

Why We’re Polarized

Klein shows how and why American politics polarized around identity in the 20th century, and what that polarization did to the way we see the world and one another. And he traces the feedback loops between polarized political identities and polarized political institutions that are driving our system toward crisis.

You can also check out this title as eBook on OverDrive/Libby or as eAudio on OverDrive/Libby

I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversations

Two working moms from opposite ends of the political spectrum invite those looking for something better than the status quo to pull up a chair and listen to the principles, insights and practical tools they have learned hosting their fast-growing podcast Pantsuit Politics. You can also check out this title as eBook on OverDrive/Libby, as eBook on Hoopla or as eAudio on Hoopla.

Radical Curiosity

A bold manifesto arguing that the most complex challenges we face today-as individuals, businesses, and a society-require us to ask deeper questions, not seek easier answers.